Sometimes life can become so busy or stressful that we have difficulty staying connected to our partner. Small issues may turn into big issues when they are left alone. We may become distant, or irritable, or find ourselves fighting often with our partner. When we are in an intimate relationship under stress, it is often difficult to see both sides clearly. Communication can become strained, even painful.
You may feel like you don’t even know who your partner is anymore. You may feel as though your partner simply doesn’t know who you are. You may wonder if you should try to fight through your challenges until you win, or avoid the challenges, or if you should just leave your partner. Under these circumstances, it can be helpful to have someone outside of your relationship help you to navigate your way through the challenges. Couples counseling can help.
Couples counseling can be a good fit if you are feeling like you aren’t sure what to do next, or if you feel like you are sure, but need some outside support.
How can couples counseling help?
- If you find yourself frequently daydreaming about the perfect mate, or someone else in particular.
- If you ever find yourself wishing your partner was more of something, and/or less of something else.
- If you ever feel like if your partner would just stop doing that one thing, or just start doing that other thing, your relationship would finally be great.
- If your partner ever says things like this to you.
- If little things blow up quickly between you two.
- If one (or both) of you just avoid bringing things up at all.
- If simmering resentments are affecting your intimacy.
- If there has been a betrayal – an affair, or an unspoken power differential – and you feel as though you could never really trust your partner again.
- If you find yourself hiding things or keeping secrets from your partner.
There is no better way to begin working on these challenges than with a therapist skilled in couples counseling.
I will witness your relationship dynamics in action, and provide you with the support and tools you need to move forward. Looking at your early attachment dynamics and wounding, and working from a strength-based framework, we will tackle your challenges together to help you build more resiliency into your relationship.